Boundaries

Shit that can ruin our friendship or damage 

Mentioning me to often in chats. This one sounds really confusing, I love to get checked up on and spamming me with texts is always okay but mentioning me over and over again irritates me. Just sent me a chat in my private chat but DONT and I mean DONT spam me with tags. I have an own personal life and I get really irritated when someone tries to push something upon me while working on something else. I reply when I have the mental stability to. Again, just add me and sent a single message because I might not even open chats. 

Calling me terms I don't like. This one might make some people visiting maybeee a bit shaken since a lot of my friends do this. Some terms I don't wanna be called, and yes this can make me stop wanting to talk to you: 

Femboy, 'acts like a girl', tranny, The gay friend, faggot, feminine and Twink, I am extremely insecure about looking and acting like a girl and I try everything to NOT be that. If you genuinely call me that or called me that, thank you so much for making me feel extremely uncomfortable and almost being the reason I quit school. 

Koreaboo, Asianfisher or Sasaeng. I'm extremely happy being German/French and very proud of my nationality and Ethnicity. I do not want to be Asian in any way and I would never 'fish' to look asian either. Liking Kpop and Thai culture doesn't make me an Asianfisher or Koreaboo. Also, I'm quite happy that I'm not Korean but that has personal reasons. Also find it fucking weird how Sasaengs exist like leave people tf alone? I HAVE FUCKING SEEN ONE THAT WAS STALKING SOMEONE JUST FOR BEING ASIAN AND BEING A FETISHIZER BFFR. That's just not ok. 

Non poc saying the N word. This should be a basic reason to not want to be friends with someone. Just get out and never return tbh. 

Calling me she... yes. This can make me not like you. If you did it once that's okay but if you do it a couple times pleaseeeee stop. I lit am a guy so stop. I already overthink everything I do and just don't be the reason I feel more uncomfortable. 

Not being able to share my interests without being judged. Its as simple as that, this includes jokes and I know you're watching because everyone does this. 

Acting like I'm some small kid, yes I'm 1.73 and I'm still growing. Just because I'm small and autsistic and see things different is no reason to baby talk to me. I'm lit almost an legal adult. EVEN IF IM IN FUCKING HIGHSCHOOL, EVEN TEACHERS DO IT. Also hate it when someone finds joy in 'teasing' me because I feel looked down on.

Pushing your religion upon me and having it as main subject. I think religion is a beautiful thing, but, I'm Buddhistic and there will never be a chance I will join any religion aside from the very spiritual part (aka Hinduism, Taoism and Shinto). I grew up Buddhistic and I will stay Buddhistic. Sharing your stories and culture is always okay. Feel free to tell me a story about your religion you like or tell me you went to church!

Embarrassing me in front of others. It's as simple as that. Maybe a little is funny but if you notice me clearly not liking it stop. 

Misinterpret me and saying your immediate assumptions in front of others. JUST DONT AHAAGAGUDIUGFWIYV

Making fun of my interests while I'm respecting yours. 

"Man up" yeah no stfu. 

Treating mental health like a trend or aesthetic.

Asking me why I have scars. It's annoying and none of your business unless we're VERY good friends. 

Making me feel guilty about wanting space. Please sometimes I do not want to walk with you everywhere and I just wanna unstress alone. 

Only being able to talk about one specific interest of yours that I'm not interested in and ignoring me or my interests and this has been happening a lot lately. 

Somethings I want others to tell me: Please tell me if you dont like hugs or tell me when I smell bad.